I had a night a few weeks ago where I really wanted to go out dancing with friends. I truly did. I had a groove to attack. & not only that, but I knew of existing plans to do that very thing. No wrangling involved.
But I felt something in my brain nudge me & go, “Wait. Wait a minute. Think about this.”
& I realized if I were to go dancing in addition to my already-existing plans for Sunday, I would be exhausted. Ka-put. I would have overdone it & gone beyond my capabilities.
When I am finding the energy or passion to participate in something – it is hard to say no. That fiery energy feels so precious; I want to encourage it. I don’t want to slam the door in its face & say, “Sorry, I don’t want what you’re selling.”
If I’m up in a hot air balloon – sure, I’m inside that little basket underneath. But that basket is saving me from a lengthy drop into the abyss. Living with limitations does not make you a failure.
Part of the process is acknowledging these boundaries as positives. They are limited, but they’re reigning me in for my own good. If I were to overstep, I wouldn’t be respecting how hard I have worked (& continue to work) to find my plateau of wellness. Recognizing them (& abiding by them) are serving my own stability and well-being.
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Allison, I have just caught myself up on a bunch of your posts, and it really made me realize what a thoughtful and eloquent writer you are, and how you can go from hilarious to poignant to informative with deceptive ease. I also love the photos, especially the one of you and Amanda. I always get you guys confused!! Man…